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Child Support Review – Good or Bad

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As many of you who have read my other posts know, I moved to Oregon from California about six years ago. My original Child Support Order was drafted in California which is where I got married to and divorced from my son's mother, who I affectionately refer to as "The Plaintiff". That is how she was described on our divorce papers and somehow, it just seems to fit her. What many people don't know, The Plaintiff included, is that even though you move to another state and have the enforcement of … [Read more...]

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Child support does not mean Life Support

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I had a bit of a knock-down drag-out argument with my son's mom last night. I try to avoid them at all costs, but this one was looming on the horizon for about 17 years. Child support ends next year and she doesn't think that's fair. She thinks it should just go on and on, indefinitely. We were divorced in California and although we moved to Oregon six years ago and our child support is enforced by Oregon's child support enforcement department, it still abides by the original California … [Read more...]

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Moving after divorce. What about the kids?

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When faced with tough decisions about your own life after a divorce, putting the child's needs above your own often makes those decisions much easier. About 6 years ago I had been divorced from my son's mother for about 10 years. We had both been re-married and her second marriage had also recently ended in divorce. She called me up one morning and said she needed to talk. I had no idea what was coming. She was always rather unpredictable in that regard. I took it in stride and agreed to meet … [Read more...]

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When tempers flare

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My motto is,  "Always take the High Road". It may not be the fastest or the most direct route to where it is that you want to go, but there is never any traffic on it and the view is always much better from there. For me, being able to look back on the way I handled interactions and conflicts with my son's mother with a sense of pride, has always been of utmost importance. So many people, men and women alike, are so caught up in their feelings of anger and betrayal that they can't see the … [Read more...]

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